There are few basic needs of a newborn: to be held, cradled, nursed, loved. And parents are the answer, the rest can remain on store shelves. For the indispensable gadgets you can resort to the loan.
Once upon a time there was the layette. Hand-made, day after day, by the future mother, who, knitting gaiters, socks and hats, prepared for the appointment with her baby. Slowly woolen blankets and embroidery grew on the sheets, and slowly the baby grew in the womb of the mother. And while the layette was taking shape, the awareness that there was a baby who would soon come to transform a young woman into a mother and her partner into a father also took shape.
Today there is the birth list. And its first characteristic, the one that immediately catches the eye is that it is a very long list, destined to transform us into “strong consumers”. If we take into consideration the numerous articles dedicated to the subject in magazines and specialized sites, the average of the items in the list varies from 35 to 60 pieces, including accessories and gadgets. However, if we consult the websites of some companies in the sector, the number grows up to 95 products divided by gender (breastfeeding, baby food, hygiene, etc.) for a famous brand. Faced with these long lists of indispensable products, many young couples creep into the doubt of not being able to afford a child. There may be an economic crisis, we may be in trouble, but we will certainly not save on our child. For a child all that is needed and more.
What does a baby need?
And here we are. Is it possible that that amount of accessories is needed to accommodate a child? In short, we are talking about a tiny baby who comes into the world with few basic needs: to be held in her arms, cradled, nursed, loved. And mom and dad are the answer. Then, of course, you will need to keep it clean (warm water, a drop of soap), to keep it warm and to change it. It is evident, however, that when the “starting point” is the child and a careful observation of his needs, we do not get to so many indispensable / necessary items. This does not mean that we will not buy anything or that we have to go back to knitting (lucky those who still master this art!), But it does mean that we do not want to become easy “prey” of advertising which, thanks to our inexperience (when we expecting the first child it is difficult to understand what can actually be used and what not) and our legitimate desire to guarantee all the best to the creature that will be born, pushes us in the direction of unbridled shopping.SPECIALThe crying of the newbornCrying is the first form of language:
Birth list: there is no rush for purchases
When you have no experience with children, it is difficult to know which of the many accessories offered by the market are actually valid and which are superfluous (there is only one essential: the car seat). The common feeling then pushes us in the direction of purchase, word of mouth between mothers often confirms the need for the many products listed in the birth lists, only to realize, after birth, that they have faced many unnecessary expenses.
But then how to go about it? A tip that generally works well is not to get caught up in the urgency. To buy, there is time.It is often thought that before birth everything must be ready, and by everything we mean products and gadgets. In reality, the “fundamentals” for welcoming a newborn are already there and are mum and dad. It goes without saying that we will buy or borrow from friends who have older children, dresses and roomper , that we will think of diapers (maybe washable?), That we will buy some small accessories for the pleasure of doing it, because it impressed us, and never mind it won’t help; but once this has been done, there are no “obligatory” purchases that cannot be postponed. You can wait for the baby to be born to find out what he actually needs, based on his temperament, his “requests”, the needs of our family (remember that each family is a story in itself, unique and special, what is fundamental for one couple, for another can be absolutely useless) and to the type of mother who will be born in the delivery room. Yes, because there is also this to discover: what mother will we become? How many certainties cultivated before birth are destined to vanish, transform, adapt to a reality that is never quite the same as the one imagined?
Some practical examples
In the birth lists we find bottles, pacifiers, sterilizers and bottle warmers, but, if the mother is breastfeeding, she certainly will not need these accessories. And again, there are families who have invested significant amounts in prams and strollers only to discover that they really loved carrying the baby in the sling in the baby career.(and that the child himself much preferred this mode to the latest super-equipped model of pram / stroller. ), so maybe a stroller could come in handy on certain occasions, yes, but at that point a simple (and cheap) “basic” model would have been fine. And what about the many children who stubbornly snub the pretty crib with matching linen, preferring any other solution that contemplates the (very close) proximity to their mother?TO KNOW MORE
Instead of filling make room
In short, these little ones should be born. Get acquainted. And start understanding each other. What if in the meantime you realize that something is missing? There is always the dad (or grandmother or aunt) who can drop by the store, pharmacy, supermarket, depending on what you need.
This is true for the first few months, but also for the subsequent period when children begin to move and slowly explore the reality that surrounds them. Let’s take the playpen for example: in addition to limiting the child’s freedom by interfering with correct psychomotor development, this sort of “box”, in many cases, has turned into a toy basket because the child has never stayed there for more than two minutes without protest or, if older, without … groped to escape! And how many toys lie unused in baskets and chests, while the children have fun with wooden ladles, keys, remote controls?
Our society’s invitation when there is a baby on the way is to buy. To buy a lot. And consequently to fill the house with accessories, products, objects. In reality, when there is a child on the way we should make room : in our home, preparing to transform it into a child-friendly home; in our lives, preparing for the upheaval (beautiful, but still an upheaval) that becoming parents entails and in our hearts, destined to open up to a new love, so all-encompassing and unique that it cannot be explained in words. Because in the end it is right there, in our hearts, the secret to welcoming and raising a happy child.SPECIALDownload a copy of UPPAThe magazine for parents, written by child specialists, independent and without advertising.